Category: BED Help

… self control isn’t about forcing myself to eat the right foods and exercise more. It’s not about making myself feel guilty for eating too much or the wrong foods. It’s about allowing myself to function naturally, trusting that I have what it takes to love and nourish myself regardless of what anyone else says.

…when I find myself thinking how great I am because I ate well today, or having thoughts that I must be better off than someone who is still struggling with food, I stop and check myself. My value is the same whether I have an eating disorder or eat the perfect diet, whether I am thin, fat or in between. And this is the same for everyone…

…I saw my disordered eating through a different lens. I realized it was a normal response to the signals I give my body via thoughts about food restriction or permission, and that it is related to beliefs I hold about myself and my value. In recognizing this, I am able to stop having pity parties every time I do something I consider ‘bad.’

What if I could change my thoughts instead of my eating behavior? Eating does not HAVE to make me feel guilty. I choose to feel guilty when I eat too much or eat a forbidden food. And if I have a choice to feel guilty, I also have the choice to NOT feel guilty. I don’t have to berate myself.