I wonder sometimes what the actual turning point in my life was…the one thought, or attitude which changed my perspective from -I can’t, to -I can?
Berating myself for overeating and for being overweight only served to lock my psyche into that behavior.
…If being my best means that I am skinny, but my mind is constantly on my body and weight, how is that my best?
…You can create your own truth. And your truth is more real than what anyone says about you or how anyone treated you in the past.
To be happy and at peace, you don’t need to be thin or rich or possess any certain characteristics or personal qualities. You don’t need to have everything just the way you think life should be. I challenge you to figure out a way to say, “I am the happiest person I know.” Take the risk and watch your life change.
…This takes our undesirable behavior out of the realm of shame and puts it, blamelessly, into the realm of acquiring knowledge. Once you step out of that sphere of guilt and self-loathing, nothing can stop you from obtaining what you need to be happy and healthy.
functional lies. These can be lies about your feelings, needs and desires. They can be lies about your past or even about not being hungry and pushing your plate away when you really want to finish that pasta. We use these lies to prevent shame or enhance our standing in someone else’s eyes. We use them to trick ourselves into believing we are okay or are doing the right thing.