…learned that I created my own suffering with my thoughts. It took many years to delete all the scripts. But this was only because I had the idea that the process of psychological change was difficult, time consuming and painful, which it is not.
what do you do when you see someone you love in self-destruct mode? Help? Help can be just a nice word for enabling
functional lies. These can be lies about your feelings, needs and desires. They can be lies about your past or even about not being hungry and pushing your plate away when you really want to finish that pasta. We use these lies to prevent shame or enhance our standing in someone else’s eyes. We use them to trick ourselves into believing we are okay or are doing the right thing.