…learned that I created my own suffering with my thoughts. It took many years to delete all the scripts. But this was only because I had the idea that the process of psychological change was difficult, time consuming and painful, which it is not.
…You can create your own truth. And your truth is more real than what anyone says about you or how anyone treated you in the past.
To be happy and at peace, you don’t need to be thin or rich or possess any certain characteristics or personal qualities. You don’t need to have everything just the way you think life should be. I challenge you to figure out a way to say, “I am the happiest person I know.” Take the risk and watch your life change.
…This takes our undesirable behavior out of the realm of shame and puts it, blamelessly, into the realm of acquiring knowledge. Once you step out of that sphere of guilt and self-loathing, nothing can stop you from obtaining what you need to be happy and healthy.
functional lies. These can be lies about your feelings, needs and desires. They can be lies about your past or even about not being hungry and pushing your plate away when you really want to finish that pasta. We use these lies to prevent shame or enhance our standing in someone else’s eyes. We use them to trick ourselves into believing we are okay or are doing the right thing.
when you look for the approval of others, you end up doing things you think they want you to do and not what you really want to do or were meant to do.