I wonder sometimes what the actual turning point in my life was…the one thought, or attitude which changed my perspective from -I can’t, to -I can?
…I stopped judging myself and started seeing my behavior for what it really was – a habit born out wanting to ‘fit in’ and the stress surrounding that. This was a giant first step in changing my life. If I can do this, you can too.
I don’t expect to skip over all the hard stuff in life. But, I know my life is only as good as I expect it to be.
…This takes our undesirable behavior out of the realm of shame and puts it, blamelessly, into the realm of acquiring knowledge. Once you step out of that sphere of guilt and self-loathing, nothing can stop you from obtaining what you need to be happy and healthy.
functional lies. These can be lies about your feelings, needs and desires. They can be lies about your past or even about not being hungry and pushing your plate away when you really want to finish that pasta. We use these lies to prevent shame or enhance our standing in someone else’s eyes. We use them to trick ourselves into believing we are okay or are doing the right thing.
when you look for the approval of others, you end up doing things you think they want you to do and not what you really want to do or were meant to do.
…you want to change because you are anxious to be a better person. But this anxiety can blind you to the fact that you already ARE an awesome person. You are already one hundred percent good